Success is something that most people strive for in life. It is not easily achievable as it takes hard work and many failed attempts until you reach that pivotal point of success. As success seekers, you may wonder why it takes so long and much hard working to reach your goals. Sometimes there are certain situations or challenges that are completely out of your control that can prevent you from being as successful as you otherwise might be. But, there's also the possibility that you're holding yourself back because of one of the following reasons.1.You keep complaining too much.
Stop wasting your time in complaining why you are not successful. If you’re constantly complaining about the negative things that are around you and how much your life sucks, you’ll never be successful. Instead of complaining, make a positive change that will help you pull out of your slump and find success. Focus on the solution, not the problem. Many of today’s successful people have gone through many challenges in order to get to where they are today.
2. You push off responsibility.
Take responsibility. Make the right choices, because they will either steer you that bit closer to your goals, or away from them. Success is nothing but a series of all the right choices you make. If you want something, got get it yourself. You’re in charge.
3. You are influenced easily by people around you.
If you’re around like-minded people whom are not as hungry as you, you will stop down to their level. Strive to purge the negative people in your life and keep the ones that make you better as a person. While it’s great to get feedback from people, you won’t achieve success if you can’t think for yourself. If you’re in a position where people keep giving you thoughts that confuse you in different directions, remember that you know yourself better than anyone. Listen to others and take in what is valuable and will help you grow. You need to have a focus of where you want to go and stick to it. Don’t let anyone else’s words stand in your way.
4. You don’t value and spend your time wisely.
One common thing many successful entrepreneurs have with each other is that they have this sense of urgency to achieve great things. If you keep telling yourself “tomorrow,” you’ll waste time and possibly never get to it. Remember, you can die at any moment, do the things you need to do right now and invest in tomorrow’s success.
5. You procrastinate.
I don’t care what your reason for procrastinating is. The Law of Diminishing Intent states that if you don’t take action soon after the idea strikes you and the emotion is high, fairly soon the urgency starts to diminish. And the longer you wait, the less likely you will ever get the job done.
6. You don’t take breaks.
Make sure to allocate some time in your day to relax, reflect and day dream. Your mind is a tool that can help solve problems and think of innovative ideas- use it. You need to learn to clear your head once in a while. This allows time to think of reasons why certain things are not working for you. Someone that is constantly doing something that leads to failure will get the same results over and over again.
7. You are a perfectionist.
Perfection does not exist. It is only a great excuse not to get started. Do your best; strive to be good; strive to become better than you were yesterday; but forget perfection. Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
8. You are afraid of criticism.
If you are going to be achieving anything great, expect tons of criticism and haters. Learn to handle them. Learn the kind of criticism you should accept and the kind that you should discard. Not all criticism is of use. In any case, do not let the fear of criticism stop you from doing what you have to do. You do not have to please everyone. That’s a sure route to failure. This is your mission. This is your life. Let’s do this. To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.
9. You aren't constantly learning.
Successful individuals are always looking for ways to enhance their lives by learning new information or skills. Whether it's reading a book or participating in a webinar, don't pass up any opportunities that can help you grow as a person. One of the best ways I have found to keep learning is to be interested in things that others are doing. Everyone is an expert at something. You can get a great mini-class from that expert. This can build great friendships, too.
10. You are afraid of failure.
Do things for success, but expect failure along the way. Failure is absolutely necessary. Failure is a life lesson designed to bring out the best in you. If you are too afraid to fail, then don’t start. It’s okay to have some fear, but don’t be too discouraged when you do fail. Because it’s not about how many times or how big you fall, it’s about how many times you’re willing to get up and try again.
11. You don’t believe in yourself.
If you don't believe in yourself, then are you willing to make any serious attempts? Even if it's celebrating a small victory, like getting the contact information of a potential client, you need to find ways that will give your confidence a boost. Don't run yourself down to others or even to yourself. It usually takes effort and doing the hard work that give actual better self-esteem. If you want something with a strong enough passion, you will find ways to make the impossible happen. When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.
12. You are ungrateful.
Being grateful increases your level of happiness dramatically. You will be much better equipped to face life’s challenges when your natural state is full of joy, happiness, and gratitude. Happiness leads to success. Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.
13.You get distracted easily.
It’s important to understand that you won’t get anything done if you constantly allow distractions to get in your way. Silence your phone and discipline yourself to not surf the web aimlessly; you’ll be much more productive. You can be working, and all of a sudden your phone rings, or you’re getting distracted by social media easily.
14. You don't network.
Networking is one of the best ways to improve your chances of success. Be a connector and someone who includes everyone no matter who they are. Don't be someone who excludes a person that is different or unusual. You never know when that person will be the one you need or the one who needs you - and you can do some good for someone. You can also learn new information when you network.
15. You have fear to go beyond your comfort zone.
You'll never be able to grow and develop if you stay in one place. Your comfort zone is a place where you feel safe and assured. While that comfort zone is needed from time-to-time, staying in your comfort zone ultimately leads to stagnation and sometimes it can lead to fear.
16. You think negatively.
You put-up roadblocks to success or set yourself up for failure before you even try when you're a negative thinker, or just a pessimist. Work on a becoming a positive thinker by surrounding yourself with positive people and becoming more aware of your surroundings. Be aware of the self-talk conversations you have with yourself. Notice if your main conversations with others are ones where you dump all of your grievances on them. If that is the balance of your conversations then change it immediately.
Since now, decide to make a change and see how successful you will be in your life.
Thank you!
Written by Agnes Mbonyiryivuze
