Giving away your personal
power destroys your chances of success. As long as you allow other people to
have a negative influence over the way you think, feel, and behave, you’ll
struggle reach your greatest potential. Giving away your power robs you of
mental strength and derails you from your goals. There are several ways you
might be giving away your power. And, you might not even realize you’re doing
it. Please decide to stand in your power and your life will change for good.
Set boundaries
It is very important to set
boundaries. It is time for you to set some boundaries if someone is making you unhappy because of repetitively bad behavior,
or because of something they are doing or saying that you have good reason to
feel miserable about. Don’t be people pleaser by not saying anything as when
you do this, you are giving away your power to their behavior. You get
to decide who to allow into your life. If you grow resentful of people who take
up too much of your energy, it’s a sign you aren’t setting clear boundaries. Letting
people waste your time, and refusing to speak up for yourself gives people
power over you. Rather than blame others for forcing you to do something,
recognize that you're in charge. Establish healthy physical and emotional
boundaries that leave you feeling in control of how you spend time and who you
spend it with.
Let go when someone
has wronged you
If someone has badly wronged
you and they aren’t even slightly regretful about it, then continuing to think
over the situation means you are giving away your power to them. Committing to
letting go of any anger or hurt is the best way to win back your power. Grudges won’t
do anything to diminish the other person’s life, but it can cause destruction
on your own. Whether someone hurt you yesterday or 10 years ago, holding a
grudge allows that person to take up more space in your life. If you learn to do not relying on people for your
worth and start generating your own approval and acknowledgment, you won’t feel
loose when somebody doesn’t give you what you expect. The less we depend on
people for validation, the stronger we’ll become and the higher we will go.
Don’t complain
Regarding all you have to
do, you also get to decide how to spend your time. No one forces you to go to
work, see the dentist, or attend that family gathering. As an adult, you get to
make the rules.
Do
not also waste time complaining. Complaining about how much
you have to do tomorrow how bad the event was, gives unpleasant events power
over your life. While problem-solving is a good use of your time, venting and
complaining aren't helpful. Commit to focusing on solutions, rather than
dwelling on your problems.
Do not allow others to make decisions and/or speak for
you
If you change your mind
every time someone pulls your heart strings, you give others power over your
behavior. If you really don’t want to do something, be strong enough to stick
to your choices, even when someone tries to take you on a guilt journey. You
don’t have any excuse for allowing others to run
your life. You have it within you to make a good decision, you can do the
research, you can use your own intuition, and you don’t need someone else to
make all of your decisions. Stand up for yourself, speak up, and don’t let
others dominate you. Changing track just because someone doubts your abilities gives
that person power over your life. Furthermore, do not even let anyone to define
you. Not everyone is going to like you. But, you don’t have to let one person’s
opinion define who you are or how you feel about yourself. It is also very important to do not allow other
people to define on how you to spend your day. The kind of day you're going to
have should not center around the boss's mood or your co-worker's actions. It’s
up to you to make it a good day despite whatever is happening around you.
Take Back
Your Power: It’s never too late to take back your power. Commit yourself
becoming the driver in your life and not the passenger. Decide that you’re
going to be in control of how you think, feel, and behave regardless of the
situation you find yourself in.
written by Agnes Mbonyiryivuze
