It is time to take back your power

Giving away your personal power destroys your chances of success. As long as you allow other people to have a negative influence over the way you think, feel, and behave, you’ll struggle reach your greatest potential. Giving away your power robs you of mental strength and derails you from your goals. There are several ways you might be giving away your power. And, you might not even realize you’re doing it. Please decide to stand in your power and your life will change for good.

Set boundaries

It is very important to set boundaries. It is time for you to set some boundaries if someone is making you unhappy because of repetitively bad behavior, or because of something they are doing or saying that you have good reason to feel miserable about. Don’t be people pleaser by not saying anything as when you do this, you are giving away your power to their behavior. You get to decide who to allow into your life. If you grow resentful of people who take up too much of your energy, it’s a sign you aren’t setting clear boundaries. Letting people waste your time, and refusing to speak up for yourself gives people power over you. Rather than blame others for forcing you to do something, recognize that you're in charge. Establish healthy physical and emotional boundaries that leave you feeling in control of how you spend time and who you spend it with.

 Let go when someone has wronged you

If someone has badly wronged you and they aren’t even slightly regretful about it, then continuing to think over the situation means you are giving away your power to them. Committing to letting go of any anger or hurt is the best way to win back your power. Grudges won’t do anything to diminish the other person’s life, but it can cause destruction on your own. Whether someone hurt you yesterday or 10 years ago, holding a grudge allows that person to take up more space in your life. If you learn to do not relying on people for your worth and start generating your own approval and acknowledgment, you won’t feel loose when somebody doesn’t give you what you expect. The less we depend on people for validation, the stronger we’ll become and the higher we will go.

Don’t complain

Regarding all you have to do, you also get to decide how to spend your time. No one forces you to go to work, see the dentist, or attend that family gathering. As an adult, you get to make the rules.

Do not also waste time complaining. Complaining about how much you have to do tomorrow how bad the event was, gives unpleasant events power over your life. While problem-solving is a good use of your time, venting and complaining aren't helpful. Commit to focusing on solutions, rather than dwelling on your problems.

 Do not allow others to make decisions and/or speak for you

If you change your mind every time someone pulls your heart strings, you give others power over your behavior. If you really don’t want to do something, be strong enough to stick to your choices, even when someone tries to take you on a guilt journey. You don’t have any excuse for allowing others to run your life. You have it within you to make a good decision, you can do the research, you can use your own intuition, and you don’t need someone else to make all of your decisions. Stand up for yourself, speak up, and don’t let others dominate you. Changing track just because someone doubts your abilities gives that person power over your life. Furthermore, do not even let anyone to define you. Not everyone is going to like you. But, you don’t have to let one person’s opinion define who you are or how you feel about yourself. It is also very important to do not allow other people to define on how you to spend your day. The kind of day you're going to have should not center around the boss's mood or your co-worker's actions. It’s up to you to make it a good day despite whatever is happening around you.

Take Back Your Power: It’s never too late to take back your power. Commit yourself becoming the driver in your life and not the passenger. Decide that you’re going to be in control of how you think, feel, and behave regardless of the situation you find yourself in.

written by Agnes Mbonyiryivuze